Relationship with food is a very complicated subject to tackle. I speak from my own experience with food and the observations I have witnessed with family members and the general public. It is not a huge surprise to me why many people struggle with their relationship to food. Many of us fall under the spectrum of some form of dysfunctional ideology about what we eat, how we eat, and how we feel about ourselves with food. The evidence of dysfunction, with regards to food, is in our faces; on just about any magazine cover you look at, commercials, movies, media, etc. Seeing skinny girls making out with a over sized cheese burger is very contradictive and weighs on the mind, whether conscious or subconscious. On top of those messages, we our told that we can be happy, and love our bodes the way they are. This takes it's toll on a person whether they are aware of the message or not. If you mix that all up with someone who is not shown how to have a positive relationship with food, it is easy to see why people struggle with their weight.
This same theory can be applied to self love. Self love is the key to any kind of healthy relationship, whether it food, friends, family, or lover, it all begins with the self. When we feel unloved, worthless, undeserving, or rejected we tend to make unhealthy choices for ourselves and then feel like we deserve them because they feel bad. The way we feel about ourselves is a reflection on the way we see the world. I have been trying to change the way I feel about myself for so long; it feels like a full time job. I am still figuring out how to give myself love when I feel bad, be understanding when I am self destructing, feel good even though I feel emotionally weak. I'll keep you posted.